Today was the first official day of the holiday vacation – no school.  It started out good – a trip to the UPS store and then the park where we shot hoops and visited with neighbors.  Then it went bad with Jacob beating Caleb up and Jacob being sent to his room for the rest of the day (that's not an overexaggeration – it's reality).  And it sent Derek and I into a tail-spin – questioning everything about our parenting and our approach and our ability to do this job well.

But then tonight we had a simple dinner.  And we sang together by the piano.  And we watched a short movie about the nativity.  And we popped homemade popcorn and we watched another short movie called Mr. Krueger's Christmas (which just makes your heart happy).  And it ended well.

And tonight while Jacob and I prayed together and talked about the events of the day, I told him what was in my heart.  We're family.  Family isn't perfect.  Family isn't always pleasant, even.  But family is worth it.  And when it's not perfect or when it's not pleasant we take a few moments (or hours) and collect ourselves.  And then we try again.  And we keep trying until one day, hopefully, we get it right.  And it will all be worth it in the end.

And that I know, for sure.

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5 responses to “Today”

  1. Dana Avatar
    Dana

    You and Derek should never question your abilities–you all are awesome parents!! Your love and sacrifice for your boys is something I respect and learn from all the time. I also love how you keep things real!

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  2. Mom Avatar
    Mom

    Perfectly written.

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  3. Julie Avatar
    Julie

    ditto on both above comments. I can’t tell you how many “beat ups” we’ve had in this household and how often we question ourselves and say, “how did we get here again!?!?” We figure, if there’s no blood or protruding bones, they’ll survive. Kidding! (not really) but you get the idea. They’re boys. It happens. A LOT. I’ve got 4 brothers who beat the heck out of each other and you should see them now= the handsomest, bestest friends there ever were. You’re doing a great job!

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  4. shelley Avatar
    shelley

    This is beautiful, Mer. Vulnerable and real with an undercurrent of strength, faith, and love. You and Derek are great parents!

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  5. Anne Avatar
    Anne

    If you two question your parenting, I should just give up before we’re even started. I second everyone’s comments above and have no doubt that your kids are the most respectful and well behaved children who I know.

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