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Please don’t yell at me

I just got chewed out by a member of the PTA Board for the second time this week – same person, different matters each time.  She uses foul language, raises her voice, etc, etc.  I don't understand it – at all.  I can't imagine ever yelling at someone (other than my kids on very occasional, unfortunate slip-ups…and now I feel worse than ever about it).  And the foul language, between respecting adults, just blows my mind…so unnecessary. 

And I just stand there – completely speechless.  When she yelled at me on the phone about something I had done, I almost cried.  I've always been like that – even in the 5th grade when I was caught with chewing gum by my math teacher, I had to fight back tears.  I don't like to get in trouble.  I don't like to be yelled at.  And today on her doorstep, I was just the messenger.  She was actually mad at someone else today.  And I just stood there, with big eyes, like a puppy dog…unable to reply for fear that she would keep going.  So when she closed the door, I turned and sighed and left.

Miserable.  Just miserable.

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8 responses to “Please don’t yell at me”

  1. Dana Avatar
    Dana

    Are you kidding me!? I’m the same way with the tear response whether I’m mad or sad. I also get really protective when people close to me are dealt with unfairly–I’m feeling the need to practice a little Kenpo for you today!
    Hang in there!

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  2. Emily Avatar
    Emily

    I cannot believe that! I do not understand how a human being can interact and treat others in that way. I think I would have cried right then and there…I’m so sorry you had to be subjected to that kind of treatment twice this week! Come to my doorstep and I’ll give you a big hug! 🙂

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  3. Aunt Lisa Avatar
    Aunt Lisa

    I think SOMEONE (meaning your fried) had a no good very bad day today and obviously took it out on you!
    I’m very sorry that you had to be the messenger -feel better ’cause life is just too SHORT!

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  4. Misti Avatar
    Misti

    With people like that around it is good we have actual grown ups like you that don’t give them a reaction. Good for you. Too bad that happened though. No fun!!

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  5. Liv Avatar
    Liv

    We’ll need her name and address, please…she won’t mess with you again (knuckles crack). 🙂 I can be pretty intimidating with my brawn when called upon. OK, I’m all talk. She obviously is an unhappy person trying to deflect on you…lucky you, having a happy life to step back into once she was finished yelling at you. Round 1 & 2 go to Meredith!!!

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  6. christi Avatar
    christi

    It is such a bummer when people don’t have good skills!!!!!
    I am proud of you for not saying one single word.
    I think it is perfectly acceptable to write her a letter and detail your boundaries
    It really was a form of verbal abuse and like I always say “that is not OK”
    A big hug and lot’s of love
    Chris

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  7. Phoebe:) Avatar
    Phoebe:)

    Oh no you di unt! PTA is like the Mormon Church–Hey! I’m a freakin’ volunteer, here! Makes my blood boil to read this.

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  8. Lori T Avatar
    Lori T

    I was a room mom last year and saw, first hand, the politics of PTA. I swore that I’d never volunteer again.
    I am so impressed with the Christ-like reaction you had to such abuse.
    P.S. I don’t know who “Liv” is, but I so want to be part of her posse.

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