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For months I've thought that he would start talking at any moment.  Slowly it has become frustrating for both of us as he struggles to communicate EXACTLY what he wants and needs from us.  Although he DOES in fact communicate a great deal – with grunts and points and body language and grins and shrieks and sounds – he still isn't saying words, or consonants for that matter, and very few actual language sounds.  One day this summer after pondering on his lack of speech, I felt the Holy Ghost communicate with me a simple but strong rebuke…"why haven't you prayed about it?"  I pray about many, if not most, of my problems, concerns and worries…but it had not yet occurred to me to pray about this.  And so I did.  And felt that I should get busy and get him and me some help.  I asked my mom for help.  And she found out about a place called the Callier Center at UTD in Richardson. 

Today we went for an evaluation with a speech language pathologist and one of her Masters degree students.  We sat on the floor and they asked me questions while playing with him and observing him for 2 hours. They will write up a comprehensive report for us, but it was great for me to go and have everything I've known confirmed to me by a professional.  Her evaluation considers many factors - all of which she says he is demonstrating average to above average abilities.  He comprehends everything we say – he plays beautifully – he is smart and socially adept.  She measured him at 21 -27 months (he's 20 months yesterday) in all of the categories except for one…articulation.  In "articulation" she said he is only at a 6-12 month level.  Here's a great definition of articulation: "the adjustments and movements of speech organs involved in pronouncing a particular sound, taken as a whole."  Exactly what I thought.

She reassured me that bringing him for help was the right thing to do…it's not something that he will just develop or get better at on his own necessarily.  She did some oral tests on him and found that his tongue wasn't following cues that way it should.  His little mouth and tongue need to be taught how to form consonants and words, for whatever reason. 

So – here we go…on the hunt for a good private speech pathologist.  And he will most likely be enrolled in "small-group therapy for language emergence" program in the Spring.

I feel relieved – and thankful.  Thankful that I was gently reminded that Heavenly Father wants to help and have a say in Samuel's life.  Thankful that we're getting some help.  Thankfully that this very small inconvenience is something that we have the time and means to deal with, and thankful that it's not something "big".  Thankful for Samuel's sweet nature – his constant hugs right now, his love of books, his laughter.  Thankful to be his mom.

Sidenote: A friend of mine told me that when her son was little and was going for speech therapy, she would say to him "we're just going to help you find your voice".  I love the way that sounds!  So I use it for Samuel (and for the big boys, when they get frustrated with him) – we're just doing all we can to help him find his voice.

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5 responses to “Finding his voice”

  1. Dana Avatar
    Dana

    Samuel is so lucky to have such a great mom–I’m glad things went well yesterday. Imagine the things he is going to tell the world when he does find his voice!!

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  2. Emily Crane Avatar
    Emily Crane

    I love experiences like this when you are reaffirmed so strongly of Heavenly Father’s abounding love for your little ones. How blessed he is to have such an amazing family.

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  3. Amy G Avatar
    Amy G

    What an amazing mother you are to have been blessed with the right promptings, the right doctors, etc. at the right time. Thank goodness for the Spirit to guide us along the way.
    Austin was the same way….not talking at all just a month before his 2nd birthday. 3 months have passed, and he all of a sudden found his voice and is doing amazingly well. I don’t know how, but he figured out how to use what his momma gave him ;), and so much of what comes out of his mouth is understandable. It’s amazing to see the process these little ones go through. Good luck!

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  4. Kristin Esplin Avatar
    Kristin Esplin

    Meredith-
    I don’t know if you will remember me or not, but this is Kristin Esplin. We used to live in your ward back when Jacob was just a little guy. I happened to stumble upon your typepad when looking at Dana’s blog. At any rate, it has been so fun to see how much your beautiful family has evolved. I just wanted to share that your post was so meaningful for me to read. After being blessed with three girls, we were surprised to get a little baby boy. He is just adorable in every way. But after having three early talkers, I have been a little worried about Parker who is 16 months and still only wants to grunt. I keep telling myself that it must be a boy thing–something I am not accustomed to–but I would feel terrible if there was more to it. You have inspired to me to quit shrugging my shoulders and now drop to my knees. Maybe Parker just needs a little time, but I honestly haven’t asked and I certainly want to be his advocate. Thanks for directing me in this path. I would love to re-connect with you on the Christmas card circuit. Drop me an e-mail when you have a chance and maybe we can exchange addresses. I am happy that you and the Hickens had such a fun trip to Hawaii. I am sure they were a ton of fun to travel with.
    Kristin

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  5. Shelley Avatar
    Shelley

    I’m glad your appointment went well. I’ve been meaning to call about it. I’ve always been glad that we intervened early with Matthew and helped him find his voice. I hope Samuel is quick to find his, too.

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